The bullies that decided it was their right to not only pass judgment on myself as a mother but also my children. That we are teaching them to be "entitled" I will not defend myself in this area because it isn't even worth the breath explaining to anyone that the Mr. works two jobs at Christmas and that he is a full time student. Or the fact that he does all of this so that I am able to stay home with my beautiful children who would tell a stranger thank you for opening a door for them. Maybe they ought to take a look at this Series titled "Kids that are Never told No" It isn't worth explaining any of these things to a person who is obviously quickly angered and does not feel the need to offer support and understanding to other mothers in her social media community. I wish them nothing but good things because I know that by judging me they are just defining who they are. Now that is an excellent lesson to teach your children.
On another note I have to say Thank You to so many of you including Courtney who wrote Mean Moms while defending me. I can't even believe how sweet and caring you have all been. I know that this community is good and has a huge heart and that we are all here for each other. I'm so thankful for you and blessed. So many of you quickly came to my defense. You emailed me, messaged me and I want you to know what a huge difference it made. I thank you and from the bottom of my heart and want you to know that I appreciate you. Moving on and forward and ready for whatever this beautiful day brings.
That whole thing is ridiculous. Why follow someones blog page if you are just going to get mean and ugly? It was horrible and I'm sorry it played out on your page. They obviously do not read your blog. Keep your chin up!
ReplyDeleteOh man! This whole thing made me blurry eyed! Haha! To each their own, on how to parent, but DO NOT knock someone else for their beliefs. I am 100% with you, and I would have complained! These kiddos are our future, maybe we should start treating them that way!
ReplyDeleteI always got your back! :-)
ReplyDeleteI can't believe some of the nasty things said to you on this issue! I understand not agreeing, but to publicly put down another mother for her methods of parenting is a step too far. It only teaches our children that it's ok to put others down.
ReplyDeleteI am still highly confused as to why those ladies feel the way they do. If you take the actual action out of the situation, it would make much more sense. If you asked for water, and the place said they had none, yet another table was served water after the fact, it would be the same thing. Instead, someone turned the conversation into a parenting opinion and personal attack. Raise your kids however you'd like! Rock on, mama.
ReplyDeleteWow that got pretty heated! I think it is pretty rough that they didn't sing happy birthday to him and then went on to do it for someone else! He would have been gutted. In NZ no-one has happy birthday sung to them by the wait-staff but at certain places you would get a dessert or t-shirt or something like that and even now I am 21 I feel sad when I don't get my birthday 'treat'. I guess it is important to be consistent - if you aren't going to do it for one person then don't do it for anyone.
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I have no idea how anyone could have even gotten negative over that! I completely agree with, "I wish them nothing but good things because I know that by judging me they are just defining who they are." It always has more to do with who they are, and most folks, when they're being mean, it's probably because they have something going on in their life that has nothing to do with you.
ReplyDeleteHappy belated birthday to your little man!
I'm sorry you had such a negative experience. I feel like sometimes the anonymity of FB makes people act like idiots. It sounds like you are an awesome mom who has sacrificed a lot to give to your kids!!
ReplyDeleteHonestly, it's not even worth paying attention to people who are so full of anger and resentment that they jump on people with criticisms and damaging, horrible comments at the slightest thing. They would *never* speak to people with the same amount of gumption face-to-face as they would over the internet, what is it about getting behind a computer that makes hate-filled morons think they are invincible warriors of words? It's infuriating. Don't let their words drag you down! You and your husband are obviously working so hard to give your children a wonderful upbringing and you should be proud of yourselves, don't listen to the haters! x
ReplyDeleteTried to comment on your fashion post - but looks like comments were disabled! Anyways I love your leopard and purple outfits. But I got to reading this post and my heart breaks for your little guy.. I can't believe people feel that they have a right to judge your life/circumstances in it. True that your little guy will probably forget about what happened and no he's not "scarred" for life but that doesn't mean it wasn't okay what happened to him. And no, I don't think your intention is to fire a server - but just make sure this person doesn't make a mistake like that in the future. Anyways don't get down for too long.. sounds like you've got an amazing head on your shoulders and a lovely family!!
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